When coaching you have a responsibility to teach how. Put finer points on what ever you are teaching. Too often we say "don't do it that way”, or we use terms that the players may not understand conceptually, OR we say “they were just told how to do it, and yet they are still not doing it” I have even heard coaches say, I’ve been running this drill for 4 years, and they still don’t get it. Remember, when you point a finger, 3 point back at you. Maybe we need to rethink what and how we are teaching. Remember like parenting, being a coach the balance of the relationship is unequal. You should encourage communication, but you can’t expect that the players will always ask questions. You need to be able to demonstrate what you are teaching, even if it is at a much slower speed. Show players, what you want, associate a term for what you are teaching. That way you can give an auditory cue when you are trying to emphasize the skill or habit you are trying to make second nature.